Overuse of terms like 'gratitude' and 'mindfulness' can block the profoundly personal practice of feeling deep appreciation of all that you already are. Doing rather than judging is the important distinction here....look past cliche and try!
Good thinking needs daily nourishment from an enriching and sustaining pot. Just like eating, we choose what goes in to feed and grow our thought. Nourish thoughts with positives, feed inspiring options to your best you, the once a day then on your way, impacting all you do.
Talking with an old friend words popped out that I never thought I’d say, “Every time I meditate I have a better day”. Meditation works! It clears the decks and calms the choppiest of seas, and from a place of stillness you choose well, with reason and clarity.
Excuses are the words we use to hide truth from ourselves, but simply stop them now and you will free yourself. That our lives are ours is sometimes hard when there are parts that we don’t like, but forgive yourself, be honest, accept and do not hide. Accept the truth that what you want will take some pushing to, drop excuses, they don’t feel good, and you’re not fooling you.
In distant tomorrows, what is it you’d truly want to read about your past? Think about that now, then set about the task of being as you truly want, here, today, in now. Write the life you dream of with sweat upon your brow, as it will take effort and it will require carving words in stone…"This is who I am, and where my story’s born!" The ink may have dried on your introduction, opening chapters and on some pages you’d like to mend, but your story is still spooling, you do not know the end.
Expectation is disappointment and anger waiting to happen. We can control what we do but not all the results of our doing, and that’s good, because all the greatness in you is in the now of what you’re pursuing. Put all your focus into what you can control and you care less about what to expect; your goals, your plans, your aspirations become bigger but loose and fresh.
Dissolve conflict by switching from a need to be understood to a need to understand. Think now of someone that you’re banging up against, locking horns or standing firm…then dissolve this gridlock by changing tact from talk to listening. Then watch as the space you’ve given them to breathe and open up, releases tension in both of you, and you made this giant step.
Hindsight is the window to what really floats your boat, so go through last year’s calendar to learn what lit you up the most. And see what depressed you, pulled the rug from underneath, then plan more of the positives and know what stuff to leave.